a community for healing after betrayal
The Solace Seekers Collective
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Betrayal can be incredibly isolating. You might be afraid to tell your friends and family for fear of judgement, blame, or being told what to do.
But you don’t need to go through this alone
this is the space for you to be seen, heard, and validated for the range of emotions you might be feeling right now
instead of late night googling, you can find solace in this group with resources to help you cope with the betrayal itself.
Research shows that having social support following the discovery of betrayal and infidelity can reduce symptoms of post traumatic stress and help build resilience.
This Community Is For You If…
you have experienced any kind of betrayal or cheating including but not limited to emotional, physical, financial or otherwise
you want to learn more about betrayal trauma, the impacts of it and healing steps
you desire to share your story and have a space to be heard/understood by people who aren’t your friends or family
want to know and feel you are less alone in the aftermath of betrayal, surrounded by others who know what it’s like to experience betrayal
you have limited access to resources in your local community and need an online space to get support and education.
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A safe space to explore topics like:
Betrayal Aftermath
anger/ devastation
triggers
physical impact
identity loss
Recreating your Life
rebuilding trust with self and others
learning gut instinct
life afterwards
post traumatic growth
fostering resiliency
navigating rebuilding the current relationship or new ones
intimacy
boundary setting
communication
learning rights as a betrayed partner
Exploration of past, present, future self
old wounds (worth, lovability)
core beliefs
safety
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Meet Lindsay
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Credentials: Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist (candidate), Registered Therapeutic Counsellor, Betrayed Partner
My why
Discovery day. What I believed was the worst day of my life (and I’ve unfortunately had multiple discovery days). One in particular always stands out. I had been experiencing this nagging gut feeling for a long time. My world looked the same, everything appeared to be normal. But there was just something, and I couldn’t put my finger on it. I finally caved and did some digging. I found words in a text message that didn’t make sense to me. I read them over and over and over. I did some googling. I started connecting dots. And I distinctly remember the gut wrenching wail that burst from my body when it all clicked.
What followed over days and weeks and months was debilitating depression and anxiety. Non-existant appetite. Bewilderment. Feelings of worthlessness. Agonizing over what was wrong with me, why I wasn’t good enough. I stayed up until all hours in the morning researching online and reading books on how to “fix” this. How to be better. How to be more. How to be more attractive, more exciting, more adventurous, more available, more feminine. And also how to be less. How to be less sensitive, less dramatic, less needy, less anxious, less irritating,
I believed I needed to become someone different. And I believed I needed to do this alone. I couldn’t tell anyone. I was terrified of being blamed for not being a “good woman.” I was terrified of being judged and shamed for wanting to stay. I didn’t even want to say the words out loud, feeling like it would make everything all the more real.
That was ten years ago. After a decade devoted to learning, recovering and finding myself, I’ve learned many hard and beautiful lessons. Most importantly I’ve learned that healing cannot occur in isolation.
My hope is that this space will be available to you 24/7. When you are awake at 3:00 am with racing thoughts, feeling very alone, that you will feel safe to turn to this community.
How this community can help you with your betrayal healing:
The Solace Seekers Collective was created to offer an inclusive space where betrayed partners can come together and connect with others navigating betrayal, ask questions, share fear and pain, celebrate wins, support others and perhaps simply know you aren’t alone.
Some benefits of joining a community when healing from betrayal trauma are:
the feeling of reading something and immediately thinking “OMG YES THAT’S ME/WHAT I EXPERIENCED”
supporting others can deepen your own awareness and help you feel more empowered in your recovery
the reassurance of knowing that you’re not “crazy” or “too sensitive” because you will be in a space where others are feeling and responding the same way you are
being able to ask questions and receive answers from people who have real life experience with betrayal and can point you in the direction of credible resources
This community has been my dream for a long time. I want to provide a space where betrayed partners can share their stories, their fear, their sadness, their confusion, their anger and their hopelessness without worrying about being blamed and shamed. I also want this space to be one of hope. Where a path forward can be built. Where support is offered,Where wins, both small and big are celebrated. Where stories of betrayal can start to be rewritten.
The Solace Seekers Collective
monthly membership options
monthly membership options
Forum Tier
$7 CAD/Month
The basic tier of our membership will get you immediate access to the Solace Seekers Collective community forum where members can connect with and seek/offer support to one another. This forum will be monitored by members of my team to keep the space feeling as safe and inclusive as possible. Members will also have access to a resource library of recommended books, videos, podcasts, and other content recommendations. All members are free to add to this library as there is a wealth knowledge out there!
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Course Tier
$77 CAD/Month
The course tier of our membership will grant you everything in the basic membership PLUS:
✨ one new course/workshop every month curated by Lindsay to help heal or understand an aspect of Betrayal Trauma, healing, and related topics.
✨ access to a video library of all previous monthly workshops,
✨one live monthly Zoom Q&A with Lindsay and other experts in the field per month where you can ask all your specific burning betrayal questions which will also be added to the video library.
*Please note these groups are not group therapy nor are they a replacement for therapy. The goal of this community is to provide a space for betrayed individuals to share their experience, feel a sense of belonging, and decrease the shame associated betrayal. There will be opportunities to ask Lindsay and her team questions and receive some psycho-education on betrayal trauma recovery, but the focus is largely on peers connecting with one another.
Frequently Asked Questions
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The Forum Tier provides access to the supportive online community and a resource library of recommended books, videos, and podcasts.
The Course Tier includes everything in the Forum Tier plus a monthly course/workshops, access to past workshop recordings, and a live monthly Zoom Q&A. This tier may also have some exciting bonuses 😉 -
The forum is monitored by trained team members to maintain a respectful and supportive space, free from blame or judgment. You are always free to reach out directly with any concerns.
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Each workshop’s focus this year is on healing after betrayal, covering topics similar to:
How to rebuild trust with yourself and others after betrayal.
Navigating intimacy and reconnecting after betrayal, including understanding your own needs and fears.
Identifying and managing triggers, so you can regain control over your emotions.
Fostering resilience and post-traumatic growth to come out stronger on the other side.
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Absolutely! You’re welcome to join and observe or engage at your own pace. Many members find comfort simply reading others’ experiences before opening up.
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All live Q&A sessions are recorded and made available for Course Tier members to watch at their convenience. Your information will remain confidential.
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This community complements individual therapy by providing real-time support, shared experiences, and practical tools you can use between sessions. It's a space to feel seen and heard while learning from others who truly understand your journey. It is not meant to replace therapy, but can be an accessible option while you heal.
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Yes, you can cancel your membership anytime with no penalties. You’ll retain access until the end of your billing cycle.
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All courses and workshops are designed to meet you where you are, whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking for deeper insights.