a community for healing after betrayal

The Solace Seekers Collective

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Betrayal can be incredibly isolating. You might be afraid to tell your friends and family for fear of judgement, blame, or being told what to do.

But you don’t need to go through this alone

  • this is the space for you to be seen, heard, and validated for the range of emotions you might be feeling right now

  • instead of late night googling, you can find solace in this group with resources to help you cope with the betrayal itself.

  • Research shows that having social support following the discovery of betrayal and infidelity can reduce symptoms of post traumatic stress and help build resilience.

This Community Is For You If…

  • you have experienced any kind of betrayal or cheating including but not limited to emotional, physical, financial or otherwise

  • you want to learn more about betrayal trauma, the impacts of it and healing steps

  • you desire to share your story and have a space to be heard/understood by people who aren’t your friends or family

  • want to know and feel you are less alone in the aftermath of betrayal, surrounded by others who know what it’s like to experience betrayal

  • you have limited access to resources in your local community and need an online space to get support and education.

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Some of the topics that we’ll cover together as a group:

Betrayal Aftermath

  • anger/ devastation

  • triggers

  • physical impact

  • identity loss

Recreating your Life

  • rebuilding trust with self and others

  • learning gut instinct

  • life afterwards

  • post traumatic growth

  • fostering resiliency

navigating rebuilding the current relationship or new ones

  • intimacy

  • boundary setting

  • communication

  • learning rights as a betrayed partner

Exploration of past, present, future self

  • old wounds (worth, lovability)

  • core beliefs

  • safety

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Meet Lindsay

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Credentials: Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist (candidate), Registered Therapeutic Counsellor, Betrayed Partner

My why

Discovery day. What I believed was the worst day of my life (and I’ve unfortunately had multiple discovery days). One in particular always stands out. I had been experiencing this nagging gut feeling for a long time. My world looked the same, everything appeared to be normal. But there was just something, and I couldn’t put my finger on it. I finally caved and did some digging. I found words in a text message that didn’t make sense to me. I read them over and over and over. I did some googling. I started connecting dots. And I distinctly remember the gut wrenching wail that burst from my body when it all clicked.

What followed over days and weeks and months was debilitating depression and anxiety. Non-existant appetite. Bewilderment. Feelings of worthlessness. Agonizing over what was wrong with me, why I wasn’t good enough. I stayed up until all hours in the morning researching online and reading books on how to “fix” this. How to be better. How to be more. How to be more attractive, more exciting, more adventurous, more available, more feminine. And also how to be less. How to be less sensitive, less dramatic, less needy, less anxious, less irritating,

I believed I needed to become someone different. And I believed I needed to do this alone. I couldn’t tell anyone. I was terrified of being blamed for not being a “good woman.” I was terrified of being judged and shamed for wanting to stay. I didn’t even want to say the words out loud, feeling like it would make everything all the more real.

That was ten years ago. After a decade devoted to learning, recovering and finding myself, I’ve learned many hard and beautiful lessons. Most importantly I’ve learned that healing cannot occur in isolation.

My hope is that this space will be available to you 24/7. When you are awake at 3:00 am with racing thoughts, feeling very alone, that you will feel safe to turn to this community.

How this community can help you with your betrayal healing:

The Solace Seekers Collective was created to offer an inclusive space where betrayed partners can come together and connect with others navigating betrayal, ask questions, share fear and pain, celebrate wins, support others and perhaps simply know you aren’t alone.

Some benefits of joining a community when healing from betrayal trauma are:

  • the feeling of reading something and immediately thinking “OMG YES THAT’S ME/WHAT I EXPERIENCED”

  • supporting others can deepen your own awareness and help you feel more empowered in your recovery

  • the reassurance of knowing that you’re not “crazy” or “too sensitive” because you will be in a space where others are feeling and responding the same way you are

  • being able to ask questions and receive answers from people who have real life experience with betrayal and can point you in the direction of credible resources

This community has been my dream for a long time. I want to provide a space where betrayed partners can share their stories, their fear, their sadness, their confusion, their anger and their hopelessness without worrying about being blamed and shamed. I also want this space to be one of hope. Where a path forward can be built. Where support is offered,Where wins, both small and big are celebrated. Where stories of betrayal can start to be rewritten.

The Solace Seekers Collective

monthly membership options

monthly membership options

Forum Tier

($7 CAD/Month)

The basic membership will get you immediate access to the Solace Seekers Collective community forum where members can connect with and seek/offer support to one another. This forum will be monitored by members of my team to keep the space feeling as safe and inclusive as possible. Members will also have access to a resource library of recommended books, videos, podcasts, and other content. All members are free to add to this library as there is a wealth knowledge out there!

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Live Support Tier

($34 CAD/Month)

Members who choose the enhanced option will have access to everything in the basic membership, as well as three monthly, 60minute, live Zoom support/discussion groups. These groups may provide a topic of discussion, be Q&A style or simply be open for you to chat about what is on your heart and mind.

*Please note these groups are not group therapy nor are they a replacement for therapy. The goal of this community is to provide a space for betrayed individuals to share their experience, feel a sense of belonging, and decrease the shame associated betrayal. There will be opportunities to ask Lindsay and her team questions and receive some psycho-education on betrayal trauma recovery, but the focus is largely on peers connecting with one another.

 Frequently Asked Questions

  • Individual sessions are $170 CAD per 50 minute session.

    Couples sessions are $300 CAD per 90 minute session.

    Sliding scale spaces may be available upon request.

  • It is possible your (Canadian) insurance will reimburse you for our counselling services but it is entirely up to the insurance company and specific plan you have. If you are relying on benefits to cover our services, it is very important you check with them first to confirm that they will. If you need more information about your preferred therapist's title, credentials and registration number please email me at lindsay@lostfoundcounsellingservices.com

  • If you are not covered by insurance and finances are a concern, we may be able to offer a sliding scale rate if we have spaces available. Please feel free to reach out to me directly to discuss!

  • We sure do!

  • Not at all! Betrayal trauma is our niche, however there are very often a myriad of things people want to work on. Common themes we often explore include: family of origin, trust issues, self-esteem, sense of identity, grief & loss, fear of conflict, anxiety, depression, lack of support and boundary setting. There is no limit to the topics we can discuss in therapy, however if something is outside of our scope of practice we will let you know and we can discuss a referral to an appropriate support.

  • We do not, our practice is entirely virtual.

  • This is entirely up to you! How regularly we schedule sessions will depend on your availability, finances, and goals. Many people choose to attend sessions every 2 weeks, but others come weekly or monthly! We will work together to decide what is best for you.

  • Each therapist in the practice manages their own schedule so we don't have set hours, though we do strive to offer evening appointments as much as possible as they are in high demand. If you have a specific day/time you are looking for, email me and we can see what we can arrange.